Mistakenidentity

It's easy to fall for the *idea* of someone, especially when you're in the early stages of dating. Try to slow down and focus on getting to know the real person, flaws and all. Ask yourself if your expectations are realistic and based on their actual behavior, not just your hopes.

That's super frustrating! Gently but firmly explain that you are not your ex, and it hurts when they make that comparison. Focus on highlighting your unique qualities and actions that are different from their past relationship. Maybe even suggest couples' counseling if it's a recurring issue.

Self-awareness is key! Pay attention to when you're feeling triggered and ask yourself if your reaction is really about them, or if it's bringing up something from your own past. Journaling or talking to a therapist can help you identify these patterns and develop healthier ways of coping.